A couple seeking therapy deserves tremendous respect. The years of experience and advanced post graduate training I received make me believe in couples' potential to grow and heal. Although I am marriage-friendly therapist, I also work with couples who have already made the decision to part ways, to help them manage the separation without undue collateral damage.
A marriage or other serious attachment that is entirely conflict-free—whether the conflict is open or brushed under the rug—does not exist. Most couples have worked out at least a few ways to manage conflicts that inevitably arise. However, either because of additional challenges that life throws at couples, or because of the accumulation of unresolved issues, crises may happen in intimate relationships. Getting timely help can make the difference between resolving these issues effectively and building stronger bonds or breaking a family apart. Together we would explore the couple’s history together, particularly the point at which the relationship went from working to not working. We would identify maladaptive patterns that make you feel stuck in what seems like an endless circle of fights, reproaches, or estrangement. Together we would make a connection between current problems and each partner’s old unresolved issues and emotional injuries. With this new understanding couples usually see themselves and each other clearer and have a better chance to re-connect and create a safe space where intimate connection, healthy communication and trust become possible.
I can help with :
- Lack of effective communication, fights, or estrangements
- Feeling lonely and misunderstood by your partner
- Lack of sexual intimacy
- Distress caused by infidelity
- Difficulties in parenting
- Distress caused by infertility
- Difficulties in finding balance between the priorities of the couple and individual priorities
- Life transitions (e.g., birth of children, empty nester syndrome, retirement)
- Deciding whether to work on the relationship or to end the relationship
- How to navigate non-monogamous relationships and become "polysecure"